How Sex Affects Our Life

It is something what I observed and asked from various people through chats and IMs

First of all a person is scared of doing sex but after going through this hot world and media he makes mind to be experience holder once before marriage but when he takes one chance, his fear get removed and his thirst keeps on increasing , he tries to take chance with the same partner or changed partner. Then person becomes habitual or addict… his thirst keeps on increasing and he keeps on taking more n more chances. A time comes when he starts looking at every girl with sexual sight and start thinking that every girl needs sex and she will be ready very easily to do that. It means even one time sex is harmful. God has given the sexual organs not for fun but to increase love between humans.

Premarital sex is just attraction and it just ruins our life. Relations are no longer after doing that. If u r very good friend u can't stay for long if you have sex with each other…. U can check the authenticity of this in your nearby life that how much true is that. Friends may be of two kinds … one friends who r out of selfish needs and one need may be sex if u r so sexy and attractive… and if your friendship is out of that, once u have sex or your partner refuses to do that , u friendship will come to end

And if u r true friends and suddenly the feeling comes to your mind … you undergo sex… u will start getting bored of each other and after that because u have crossed your friendship limits (as this is the last thing which u can do with relationship with opposite sex and this is the end of every sort of excitement as now everything is exposed, every limit is crossed but in married life it is start)… And if still good relations persist between u, it is because u enjoyed that night and again u want to enjoy i.e. again the relations are for the same thing. Because this is a thing which has made human being a toy to entertain and no righteous person would like that he r she should be used for entertainment… it doesn't create direct affect but it has indirect affect in minds… u will find that persons who are sex lover they have relations with each other for sex only and they rarely cares for each other , relations doesn't meant anything for them and if they meet it is just to entertain, enjoy and sex(like3 they can meet in cinemas where there is dark , at beaches… so on) …. U know and u can observe… its 99% believable fact and exceptions are always there… but don't try to be part of that exception because the chances are only 1 % that after doing all that u will have stable relations… believe me after sex u will lose your partner in true sense and u still could have relations but the relations would be of sexual feeling in mind only.

One thing more that why relations doesn't persist after sex is that after sex people likes to discuss their sex experience with other that were they satisfied with each other … but this is something not to be discussed.. but in sex with wife or with whom u r committed, no one disclose it outside … because no one would like to disclose the sexual power of his or her partner and offer that and others would see at your wife/ husband … but this offering and disclosure will happen in any other sort of sex (if u r willing to sex, talk to her/him and she/he will offer u a night and u will be satisfied). People also say he or she is 'hurami' i.e. wild or very bad or person not to believe.

It will affect your marital life as well very easily… everyone can understand… and could be the reason of divorce… as I told that marriage requires commitment and if u will have sex relations with other person that n your wife and if your wife will come to know she would not like that because she will question that what was the fault in her , was she not able to satisfy him a… and if she will not come to know u will start getting bored of each other and start getting attracted towards your sex partner and take u to divorce and believe me this attraction will come to end that day u will get divorced or u will get married with new partner… because it was not love but merely attraction and you will start remembering your old partner. 

And u will be habitual of changing wives because you will stop caring for each other. Nobody will believe you and if somebody will believe u but u would not be able to adjust because u will find some fault in new partner and start remembering old ones as no one is perfect and no one is completely bad. … Again divorce and again marriage in quest of satisfaction but u could not be satisfied. Just go to the life of celebrities u will find that most start loving there old partners after 2^nd marriage.

Sex is meant only to increase love between Husband and Wife and create symbol of love i.e. baby.

U will find that these people have more unrest people in life … because nobody believes them and if somebody believes … they flirt and cheat or love only for sex as it becomes their habit.

Why the Divorce rate is high in various countries

The first thing which India has is that people take marriages as investment , it is considered as change in the lifestyle of people so people spend lot on marriages and it is done as collective decision which is not done in other countries.

So in India marriages are long life and for life time. But in foreign countries it is done by the decision of two people only like girl and boy and if they agree they will not ask anyone and will go to court and marry without taking anyone into consideration and without taking the views of anyone .

Secondly they have only small families and one could feel boredom with only other partner

Third they want their own independent lives and they don't feel the need of their life partner too, so, they have post marital affairs too.

A person could not be bored in true love but the main reason is that they have selfish love 

Either they have love for fame like in case for celebrities, or sex or attraction or money…. And after marriage they don't have time for each other and both don't want their partners to interfere in their lives. They don't have commitment and marriage requires commitment. Commitment of everything that they will cooperate with each other and they take care of each other and the decisions will be of both not of any single party and even they will cater each other to satisfy their physical mental monetary sexual and any other kind of need. If husband is poor we can't blame him but we need to help him or we need to adjust in poverty (in this way we can rely on each other for needs)….

Sex with wife is start of life because it pours the seed of baby and then both live to make their live happy as both are committed and to feed their baby n then marriage of children and then grandsons … and they have new direction to live … hw could they be bored. But if the feeling is different then again Divorce… If they r busy in their work n they have no time for others. And in other sort of sex relations nothing is after sex, nothing is new after sex.

If anybody have any kind of sexual attraction with any other person after marriage… believe me it will ruin your life, because after marriage it is very interesting to do hidden sex with others i.e. (chupke chupke) but it interesting only up to divorce… and after that u can't stay happy with new partner as ultimately it was your mistake and your new partner will not believe u too and u will not believe her too because both were cheaters and can cheat again.

Sometime what happens if u have very good friends(opposite sex) and u still have healthy relations with each other after marriage, any sort of feeling of sexual excitement can come to your mind for each other, and the fate would be the same as said above. So it's better to convert such relations into the relation of brother sister after marriage.

U could not have any sort of relations with opposite sex after marriage, because to some extent by any means u could be sexually excited towards each other and even your husband or wife will not like such relations. And these relations are the basic reason of increasing divorce rates. Because, at any point of time these relations could turn into sex relations. So firstly try to close these relations after marriage as marriage is all about commitment and if not try to live as brother or sisters.

Comparison with Meditation

Both r done to give relax to mind n body

Though sex relax body n mind but for few minutes on the other hand mutation does that for hours… n days

1. Meditation increases pain tolerance but sex increases pain
   
2. Meditation has long lasting effect but sex has minute affect
   
3. Sex is done with body and a person can shed his or her beauty very soon and is game of young meditation can be done by anyone beautiful or ugly, old or young
   
4. Sex attracts people into ditch and mediation attracts people to relieve of pain and sufferings
   
5. Sex diverts mind and meditation concentrates mind
   
6. Sex is addiction and meditation concentrates mind
   
7. Sex gives unrest and meditation gives peace and rest
   
8. Sex is attractive only if person is healthy but meditation could be done in any stage
   
9. Sex doesn't have any growth but a finish... after sex many things and feelings comes to end as nothing is beyond that in sexual relationship , so its end after boredom as nothing could be new.. And search start for new partner. Meditation is itself a start… go deep and u will find more rest
   
10. If u r old enough and you have sex relations with many people, now no one will come to help u and cares for u as your have loose your sexual power but if u r meditative person, as much u r old people will respect more for u.
    
11. Meditation does not create any attraction for ear, nose, eyes and body but sex creates so it is a ditch in which, when a person falls down cannot, comes out easily.
    
12. Meditation is doe for the peace of internal soul, so it is very boring in the beginning but gives peace to mind and body after going into depth but sex is interesting in the beginning and painful when in depth though interesting but cannot be done for long.
    

Cultural Degradation

Culture is the back bone of India and we cannot loose our culture in any case as this makes India united… here I am talking about western culture too as this is that culture which has broken India into pieces. As per western culture everyone is running towards money and sex and both the things are breaking unity to cater their needs people don't care for relations like brother, and parents. There is no respect for girls, no doubt girls are playing vital role but the respect which girls used to possess in Latin period is not present today as even girls have exposed themselves for money and sex. And every man looks at every other girl with unhealthy feeling in his mind either for sex or he becomes greedy for money. Then in this situation how a person can respect other and how we can believe others. Regular sex doers look at every other girl/boy with the feeling of sex.

Come to the cultural part, respecting elders, covering full body, work for mind and soul than for money and sex - is our culture……… 

Short Dresses

Shorts make people sexy but not make them beautiful… again the ditch of sex… but full clothes make people beautiful. Give me any reason why official dresses should be short. It creates sexual excitement and harassment too. It tends the small girls to take recourse of cosmetics in small age, and if the body is fatty or not beautiful she will not look good in short dresses but she will look very bad and ugly. It promotes only beautiful and sexy girls but doesn't care for talent but only face value and body value. It appeals people sexually and gives indirect invitation that u could be ready very easily. It directs all the traffic and person stops respecting others and stops looking at each other with sisterly or brotherly sight. In this way believe is also lost.

Stone Cracking expenditure on Marriages

This post is regarding the stone cracking expenditure on marriages which mean the uncontrolled expenditure on marriages and this could be controlled only by the awareness of general public.
Now people are spending lot on the marriages and it is bad because its wastage of money
And if they don't spend even then it is bad because it is against their self esteem.
According to some people this is good because this creates employment but it is wastage of money to some extent as well.
Now a days everyone has one or two children so they want that the marriage should be done with full expenditure and moreover in India marriage is such a occasion which is done once in life not as in other countries which can be done when they want.
Christians are ready for divorce any time and Muslims are ready to do more marriages any time so in India people spend much on marriages
But this create problem for them who do not have money to spend because they are tend to spend a lot on marriages
The views of some people are as follows…

"Well yes... it depends actually... if the parents genuinely want their children to have a grand and big marriage, and if they can afford it, I think it's ok to have expensive arrangements... but then, if it is just for the sake of showing off... I think it's pretty bad... because then, others (who can't afford such expensive weddings), tend to feel bad and get the feel that they are of a low class... and then comes the inequality factor which, sadly, is prevailing in our society on a large scale!!"
"Well frankly, I feel that it is up to the people to realize that spending money so lavishly is of no use... they need to get rid of selfish motives, the "show off" attitude and all. And should realize that money is needed for the country... the poor need money, orphans, the ill people... but sadly, it will be quite"
"The bigger marriage and the higher wastage of money. But to raise self esteem people do this. But if someone has more money then he will spend more lavishly."
"We should spend more money if we have because it creates employment as well and it is the means of various professions and businesses… and then it circulates money and then enhance economy"

As per me we should spend because it transfers the money from rich to the needy and it creates balance between rich and poor but if you have money and you have better plans for the development of country then we should not spend much on marriages else its not bad to spend…

Is Marriage A Joke

While chatting with the strangers on orkut as a part of my habit, eventually a topic of marriage was started. It was all about what marriage will bring to you. In many countries Divorce rate has been increased to 40% and fortunately in India it is still 2-3%. We were trying to find the reason and we came across certain facts...
People are not taking marriages seriously.
The countries where Divorce rate is high, about 50 years back there it was much harder to take Divorce and it used to be considered as very bad in the society and all the people and church would look down to Divorced person..
But now with the increase of liberty it has become normal, and fortunately in India despite of liberty still the situation is very Good and Divorce rate is very low.
I came to know that people in all the countries with the same thought as in India that they will spend all the life together but if the partner isn't so nice as they thought they just divorce and seek another partner. They don't think divorce as bad.
And now the situation in India is also becoming like that till today the situation India is like that it was in other countries 50 years back when people were scared of Divorse but the Day seems not to be far away when the situation in India will also be same.
As per the views of a foreigner "" If people just don't fit together they should not spend all their lives together and its better if people think about it before they get married. And it would be nicer if people just stay together.""
After this I am confused about what should be there.
Is the live in relationship a better option???
But honestly I am not in favor of that and as per me after getting married only your partner could be your best life partner!!!

What people outside India think about India

India is a beautiful country; this is what we know about India. Here I will try to present the views of foreigners that what they think about India.
After going through various surveys I came across various interesting and shocking facts.

India has much popularity in all the countries because of religious people over here, second because of tourism and various beautiful places like Goa, Aravallis, Lotus Temple etc.
People outside India have heard so many stories about India and mainly Buddhists thinks very positive about India because of its religiousness.
In general most people think it as very beautiful and spiritual country.

But there is harsh reality behind this sweet truth. Unfortunately India is known for the casteism which is prevailing in the roots of India.
Many human right authorities abroad don't like India because of casteism.
A daily soap is being broadcasted in Brazil about India. It is a story of Indian merchants who deals with Brazil. Unfortunately this serial is also displaying the casteism. This soap has a romance of a woman who is untouchable. So, this is the bitter fact of India. I have words with someone about how to improve this situation in India. He gave me some wonderful ideas about that. The two which I liked most and which seems to be practical are..
1. Education 2. Dialogue
1. Education can eradicate it from the roots. If everyone is aware of the fact that everybody is equal and same, then we can eradicate it from roots but large scale awareness is required.
2. Dialogue - let the people of high castes talk with the untouchables.
The people in many countries have never seen casteism but they have just read about that. As per their rules and mentality everyone is equal. Can't it be in India???
Yes, Why not?
No doubt it’s hard to change something that is deeply rooted in the minds/culture and it will take time but the contribution of every reader is required.
A girl from Netherlands was visiting India but she doesn't like that many people here were on drugs like the taxi drivers, coolies etc.
They have no standard of living. She found that they were earning for drugs and drinking.

YOUNG PEOPLE,OLD RULERS

If we talk about politics in India it is like discussing about the hell on earth . Specially ,the politics in last two decades has gone down and people look politicions as someone who cheat them by a fair mean. 'Fair mean' here I describe it because it is the public only who elects their representatives for the local bodies,state assembly and for sansad. India is a country where more than 60% of the population is young. But the rulers of the country are old. Ministers,M.L.As,M.Ps are mostly above 60 years of age. There is big gap between the people ruling us and the generation suppose to be a future of the nation. We have a long political system and a person willing to be a M.P,M.L.A in a young age, has to follow a long political system process till that he also become older or over age for the nation. Our Prime Minister is 76 yrs. old, external minister is 77 yrs. old,home minister is 65 yre.old,finance minister is 74 yrs. old,petroleum minister is 72 yrs. old,defence minister is 70 yrs. old,law minister is 69 yrs. old, minister of power is 68 yrs. old,surface transport minister is 64 yrs. old, even the minister of youth affairs and sports is 74 yrs. old, leader of the opposition L.K Advani is 82 yrs. old. In previous U.P.A government human resource development minister Arjun Singh is 81 yrs. old. Chief minister of Tamil Nadu is unable to stand on his legs and at the 84 yrs. of age he is ruling the state. C.M of Karnataka is 69 yrs. of age, C.M of Delhi is 68 yrs.old, lok sabha speaker is 66 yrs. old, C.M of Assam is 70 yrs. old, C.M of Kerala is above 75 yrs. of age. B.S Sehkavat wae vice president of the country at the 76 yrs. of age, A.B Vajpayee was P.M at the age of 74 yrs. Ram Parkash Gupta was sworn as the C.M of U.P when he was 81 yrs. old, C.M of Punjab is above 75 yrs. old,Babu lal Gaur (Ex. C.M of M.P) was C.M at a age of 73 yrs.
I know that as the age increases , exprience also increases and in politics exprience has more value than anything else. But the question is that when the new generation is going to take over from the old leaders. No doubt this time in the 15th lok sabha maximum young leaders are elected, the total no. is 82, who are below 40 yrs. of age. But again this is not good for the nation because most of these newly elected young M.Ps belong to the political families only.

BJP vs Congress or Whom to Vote?

I am trying to be completely unbiased in writing this topic... I am writing this because every one should vote and before giving vote we should be clear to whom we should vote

The motive or writing such a contradictory article is not to create contradiction but is to make the picture clear in the minds of people about both the parties. I am trying to write this article completely unbiased.

I m trying to provide the facts in favor and against both the political parties

If I talk about BJP first we all have seen the rule of BJP during their tenure, in my point of view it was successful. And about congress, they have experience of decades. Both are the strong candidates this is what everyone knows but who is stronger this is what public has to decide. But as per today's scenario, people like none of them.

As per the words of tongue congress is secular on the other hand BJP seems to be orthodox

The past record of congress is not good but in present they are doing well by bringing youth. As we can see congress was found guilty in the 1983s massacre with Sikhs. Even the report of 'Nanawali Ayog' proved congress wrong in 'Bhindrawala's case'. Even Rajiv Gandhi was under suspicion for 'Bo-force Scam'.

The strategy which congress adopts to acquire more votes is very attractive. Congress tries to convince common people by going into them which is good as well and they usually tries to go into poor and uneducated because they know this category of people constitutes the biggest vote bank. Most of the educated people believe that BJP can do well but the irony is that lesser educated people vote.

A brief review of Both the Parties:

BJP
Supposedly, Hindu Nationalist party.
Ministers who fight against IIMs drink water out of flower pots and get ill.
Good choice for govt. at center because they have absolutely no idea of how to go about things.
Bad choice for govt. at state level because of crackpot leaders who believe that their religion is supreme and should be force fed to every one else.

Congress -
Thinks that it owns India since its founders participated in freedom struggle.
Gandhi family is its lifeline, will collapse if not for them.
Very dangerous choice for centre, because of dictatorial mindset.
Good choice for opposition at center because they mellow down and support good decisions of the government.
Good choice for govt. at state level because they can't do too much harm.

I am writing the views of a person who has never voten in his life, "I have never voted in my life and will not vote for either. I am waiting for the formation of the Capitalist Party of India. I Will campaign for it if it is formed."

"Vote BJP" for their some good work done while they were in power before UPA govt."

A few days back, I watched a debate in Rajya Sabha on a Private Members bill. One MP wanted to make voting compulsory. Since it is our right, it should be our duty too - he contended. But, he forgot that this is India. People get away with murder and rape. What is the law going to do if you fail to vote?

I was chatting with a guy I met on Live Journal about the way our country is being run and I had this weird idea I thought of long ago. He was eligible to vote for almost 4 years but and He had never vote so far. The simple reason for this was that he really doesn't care. He told that none of the candidates really deserved his vote. And there was no way he could express that. So why not insert another option along with all the other names on the ballot paper saying 'none'. And for every vote that says 'none' deduct 1 vote from all the other candidates. I bet most of them will land up with negative number of votes.

As for the section, here it is:

Originally Posted by The Conduct of Election Rules, 1961 49-O. Elector deciding not to vote.-If an elector, after his electoral roll number has been duly entered in the register of voters in Form-17A and has put his signature or thumb impression thereon as required under sub-rule (1) of rule 49L, decided not to record his vote, a remark to this effect shall be made against the said entry in Form 17A by the presiding officer and the signature or thumb impression of the elector shall be obtained against such remark. Source: THE CONDUCT OF ELECTIONS RULES, 1961

Did you know that there was a system in our constitution, as per the 1969 act, in section "49-O" that a person can go to the polling booth, confirm his identity, get his finger marked and convey the presiding election officer that he doesn't want to vote anyone !!!! Yes, such a feature is available, but obviously these seemingly notorious leaders have never disclosed it. This is called "49-O". Why should you go and say "I VOTE NOBODY"... because, in a ward, if a candidate wins, say by 123 votes, and that particular ward has received "49-O" votes more than 123, then that polling will be cancelled and will have to be re-polled. Not only that, but the candidature of the contestants will be removed and they cannot contest the re-polling, since people had already expressed their decision on them. This would bring fear into parties and hence look for genuine candidates for their parties for election. This would change the way, of our whole political system... it is seemingly surprising why, and election commission has not revealed such a feature to the public.... please spread this news to as many as you know... Seems to be a wonderful weapon against corrupt parties in India... show your power, expressing your desire not to vote anybody, is even more powerful than voting... so don't miss your chance. So either vote, or vote not to vote (vote 49-O) and pass this info on...

Follow this link to see the Threads and Comments on this topic.

 

"Can Mr.Narayana Murthy of Infosys become PM?"

"No honest man can become the PM of the country (Manmohan Singh, though honest and well respected by all, is not the 'real' PM). If someone does try, crooks will first try to buy him off. If that fails, they will try character assassination. That is why politics has acquired such a bad name - it stinks."

A Hard Tested severe RULE can destroy disputes and wrong things. So hard rules for the politicians can be brought up so that they r scared to some extent. Rules like cancelling the citizenship of the particular politician who engage in serious briberies can make them aware of a true government. Of course it is not easy to stop this bribery completely but we can control it to some extent and the briberies, very naked, will be stopped. This post can be leaded by youths, especially, the sons and daughters of the opposite parties. Keen observations can be made by them because nowadays youth are the most expected ones for developing our nation, and also the opposite party will only notice the person's wrong actions than the leader from his own party who would only support his mistakes.

 

Should educated people vote?

Elections are near and many of the educated people don't want to vote because they find none of the parties suitable. But here the question arises that in a Democratic country how a person could stay without voting as this is govt. by the people for the people and of the people. If someone is not making use the 'by' thing then he should not deserve the 'of' and 'for'. So as a part of democratic country we should vote.

Most of the people think that if government is not doing anything for them then why they should vote. But the reason they don't work well could be that they always try to please poor and uneducated because they know that this is the sector which vote and they don't work for educated because they know that educated people will not vote. That's why they make such policies which are helpful for poor but not for country, e.g. relieving the farmers of loans, because they know that farmers will vote in their favor. But if they will come to know that educated are going to vote then they will be scared of making such policies because ultimately it will affect their vote bank.

Now I have given the valid reasons to vote and it's up to the reader now to decide that have he still not to vote???

A few days back, I watched a debate in Rajya Sabha on a Private Members bill. One MP wanted to make voting compulsory. Since it is our right, it should be our duty too - he contended. But, he forgot that this is India. People get away with murder and rape. What is the law going to do if you fail to vote?

I was chatting with a guy I met on IM about the way our country is being run and I had this weird idea I thought of long ago. He was eligible to vote for almost 4 years but and he had never vote so far. The simple reason for this was that he really doesn't care. He told that none of the candidates really deserved his vote. And there was no way he could express that. So why not insert another option along with all the other names on the ballot paper saying 'none'. And for every vote that says 'none' deduct 1 vote from all the other candidates. I bet most of them will land up with negative number of votes.

So, again should an educated person vote???

The decision cannot be imposed but it's in the hands of educated people.